Developing Your Palate
Hurdles
Last Monday, the men at The Good Cup had a great discussion about creating an atmosphere where others feel welcomed. That requires intentionality. Welcome involves energy and resistance against the gravity of self-absorption. We have to be aware and engaged in thinking about the needs of others. It brought this article to mind and I thought it might be worth reprinting.
When I was growing up, going out for track meant being tested in all events and competing in the areas of least incompetence. So, despite being “solidly” built and somewhat uncoordinated, I still had to run the hurdles. I had to run right alongside the kid whose legs started just below his armpits. It was hard to get up out of the dust and challenge another towering obstacle while others were floating across the finish line.
Getting into church should not look like a series of hurdles. No one among us would want it to be. CBC regularly gets praised as a friendly and welcoming church. But can I tell you a secret gained from 25 years of ministry? The same church can get high and low scores on its welcome depending on who you talk to. Much like your experience with physical activities … your experience of a new church can be somewhat tied to natural competencies. It’s not universally true, but people who score higher on the extravert level tend to report churches being friendly. They float across social barriers and integrate more quickly into new groups. But let’s consider how we might lower the hurdles for those who don’t fit that mold.
In a national survey on church attendance, first-time guests revealed obstacles they experienced to feeling welcome. Here are three worth examining:
- People took all the aisle seats making it hard or awkward to get to a seat
- People were gathered in cliques talking and laughing … we felt ignored
- People covered seats around them with their stuff … signaling we weren’t welcomed to sit by them
These could be hurdles for any guest … but especially for one who already feels vulnerable or shy. How could we help?
- If you need an isles seat, please feel free to take one. But watch for the guest – stand, smile, shake a hand motion to the seats beside you.
- Please enjoy your friends … that’s part of what makes Sunday morning great. But keep an eye out for the new person … the new potential friend.
- Become more Panamanian in your personal space requirement 🙂 . Place your items on the floor beneath your seat.
Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Philippians 2:4
(Reprinted from 02-14-2016)
Who Makes the Coffee?
Ask that question in our home and the answer would be “Me mostly.” If you were holding a cup of my brew and asked the question, I’d say, “Café Ruiz.” That’s the brand we normally buy.
This past week, Sue and I got to tour the Ruiz family farm in Boquete. Our guide, Carlos, opened our eyes to what it takes to get coffee from the bush to our cup. It went something like this … Carlos speaking rapidly in one breath … “We cultivate the plant, we hand pick the beans, we float-sort the beans, we husk the beans, we ferment the beans, we wash the beans, we dry the beans (twice), we age the beans, we mill the beans, we sort the beans again, we grade the beans, we bag the beans, we ship the beans.” Then chuckling, Carlos showed us the label on a bag of foreign-marketed coffee. It read, “Proudly Roasted in Italy.” If you had asked me who made that coffee, I would have responded, “The Italians … I suppose.” But all those steps from plant to green-bagged beans … happened in Panama. All the Italians did was burn it. And, of course, there is another person routinely left out of the coffee equation. Who imagined and created a plant that produces beans rich in flavor, caffeine and flavonoids? God makes the coffee!
How often in life we consider the last two steps of a process and place all the credit there. Museums don’t display brushes, tubes of paint, finely crafted easels and expertly stretched canvases. None of the producers of those products are known or remembered … only the painting and the artist are celebrated.
What if we change the question? What if we ask, “Who makes the church?” Far too often, the growth of a church gets attached to a few key leaders. We suffer from a serious celebrity mentality in the world today … even in the church. But when any community of believers grows and flourishes, there are a hundred intangibles that nobody sees; invitations, acts of kindness and hospitality, quiet service, one-on-one discipleship, empathy, generosity, prayer. And … when something emerges that’s more than a prosperous and morally upright country club, there’s another answer to the question. Who makes a true church? Jesus Christ!
You are no longer foreigners and aliens, but fellow citizens with God’s people and members of God’s household, built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, with Christ Jesus himself as the chief cornerstone. In him the whole building is joined together and rises to become a holy temple in the Lord. And in him you too are being built together to become a dwelling in which God lives by his Spirit. Ephesians 2:19–22